Articles Archive for March 2007
Dating Tips »
The greatest piece of dating advice I ever got came from a friend’s mother, and it was this: "Whatever a guy tells you, take it at face value." Since I was the type to hyperanalyze a man’s every comment, gesture, or sneeze, this advice came as an epiphany to me. It freed me from having to decipher what "I love you, but I’m not in love with you" meant, for instance, especially when the guy who blurted it had been happily spending his every free moment with me. …
Relationship »
Have you noticed that there’s an ebb and flow to everything in life? The sun comes up, the sun goes down; the tide comes in, the tide goes out. If you’re not currently in a relationship, it simply means the sun has temporarily set; the tide is currently out. As sure as the sun will rise again and the tide will come back in, you will eventually be in another relationship. What you do between now and then may very well determine what type it will be and if it …
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Who Is Some Who Loves You?
1. Someone who sees the best in you.
If you were lucky enough to grow up with healthy parents, you have experienced the feeling of having someone who has always looked at your good qualities. Many of us missed that experience. You will be a lucky person if you have found a mate who is always looking at your ’silver lining’. Too often today people are more than willing to judge you by your errors, not by your potential.
2. Someone who gives you the benefit of …
Relationship »
How often have you had the experience of connecting with someone - a friend or a potential partner - who turns out to be an uncaring person? At first you think this is a really good person, and then down the line you discover that the person is self-centered, narcissistic, angry and uncaring. You wonder how you could be so wrong, and what can you do differently next time?
I have discovered in my 35 years of counseling that people seem to decide very early in their lives whether or not …
Dating Tips »
 
Free dating online�you’ve heard about it, you’ve read about it, maybe you even have a friend who’s doing it. You’re thinking of giving it a try yourself. But how do you know if it’s the right thing for you? Here’s a quick quiz to help you determine whether you’re ready.
1. Are you dissatisfied with the traditional ways of meeting people to date? Two of the most likely places to meet people to date are in school and at work. If neither has helped you …
Romance »
It is surprising how many writers, psychologists, or scientists have made it their life�s work focusing on the gender differences. In our male-dominated society it is no coincidence that men have undertaken the bulk of this work. They made an effort to help men and women get along, but deep down the sexes are much more alike than the world cares to admit.
Today, most believe that men and women are significantly different in every respect. The focus on these differences has divided men and women, instead of bringing them closer …
Marriage »
Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 19, 2004
My husband is Jewish, and I am Catholic. That wasn’t a problem when we were dating, because he isn’t religious. He married a Catholic before, and their daughter was raised Catholic.
A reformed rabbi married us. I sacrificed being married in church by a priest, but we shared our traditions. My husband broke the glass, and we lit our candles. My family wasn’t too happy I married outside my faith, but they accept him.
When our daughter was born, I didn’t want …
Dating Tips »
Most single guys are settled in their life. Their mornings, afternoons and evenings have a routine they are comfortable with and rarely will they go beyond the boundaries of that routine. Even a single guy’s loneliness can become his norm and if someone crosses his path that interest him, he rationalizes instead of trying to adapt.
Many times this leads to confusion - he just isn’t sure if she is the one. He over thinks, he pauses, rewinds, goes forward until nothing makes sense about being involved. Soon he is back …
Relationship »
Nowadays, there are scores of breakdowns in love and relationships. People join in relationships nowadays with one going one direction and the other the opposite direction. Thus, dreams are an element of relationships that determines if two people will last. If one person intends to move to California to continue a career in engineering and the other person wants to live in the local area they now currently live to continue his or her career, something has to give, or else a breakdown of the relationship is on its way. …